what you think about is what you are

If you spend your time thinking about hurt and blame, you feel hurt and you will blame.

If you spend your time thinking about how you are responsible for your own decisions, your own situation and your own life--you will have energy, strength and determination to do something that will make those things better.

It is easy to fall back into a trap of feeling hurt and wanting to lash out at someone else for making you feel hurt. It's easy to be judgemental and self-righteous and want the other person to REALLY FEEL THE PAIN before you will accept their apology.

But that's pointless.

Carrying a grudge because someone stepped on your tail deprives you of the love and tenderness that person is offering you when they realize their mistake.

Angry grudges only isolate and keep you angry, bitter and mean.

So it is better to step back--realize that . . . hey . . . life ISN'T fair. Not everyone even HAS tails, how sad is that? . . . But suck it up. This is YOUR life. This is the ONLY one you get. You didnt' get a tail. So what? You have opposable thumbs. So stop whining about it.

Focus on the stuff that brings you joy and release . . . let go . . . stop clinging to the stuff that makes you angry, bitter and unsatisfied.

Nothing that gives you that much pain is worth holding close to your heart.

Anger and bitterness are like a drop of dye in a jug of water--a little bit can contaminate the whole thing.

No . . . Dougal . . . life isn't fair. I'm sorry that you still believe that it can be--or should be. That is a myth. Good things happen to bad people. Bad things happen to good people

It isn't just. It isn't fair. It will be frustrating at times--but only YOU have the power to prevent your frustration and disappointment from burning out all the rest of the good things in your life.

Not every day brings a pony or a penguin.

Deal with it.

Find your own joy--in the moment, the morning, the sunshine . . . the love of your family.

For you are loved. We all are.

Even when were grouchy--we're loved.

Isn't that the most amazing miracle of all? Love isn't earned of conditional--it's grace--given freely without a balance sheet.

That's worth having a great day right there.

And when I win the lottery, I'm going to have the basement refinished--using the plans we drew up a couple years ago.
It will include a cat walk and hotel.

And I'm going to by a Saturn Sky--in yellow . . . or red . . . or maybe black.
And I'm going to take a road trip--following as much of the historic Route 66 as I can find.
And I'm going to stop in Las Vegas and see Cirque du Soleil's LOVE.
And I'm going to get a tattoo.